Two weeks ago, my father died of a heart attack. He was a wonderful dad and granddad and it’s difficult to accept that he’s gone. I miss him very much.
My dad’s life was an inspiration to me in many ways–his devotion to his family and friends, his humor, his intelligence, his willingness to set you straight if you needed it, and his passion for photography. Thanks to dad, we have countless images of our lives that we will always cherish. And we’re proud to say that dad’s pictures were also historic treasures, including rare pictures he took of the rebellion in the streets of DC immediately following the 1968 assassination of Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.
But I also must acknowledge the pain I feel knowing that dad died of something diet-related and preventable. I talk a lot about heart attack being the leading cause of death in the US, but I’ve never had it affect me this personally. I’ve often said that if you die of a heart attack and they open your arteries, they’ll pull out a rubbery mass that’s made of saturated fat and cholesterol–never tofu and broccoli. Well, my dad’s arteries were found to be severely clogged. He was 74 and lived a long life, but he was not well in his senior years. He also battled skin cancer several years ago.
My mother, on the other hand, is 73, a 20-year vegan, and has no health issues at all. (They’ve been divorced for many years.) The contrast in their health is profound. I recognize that this, too, is an example to me.
But although I wish dad could have been with us a little bit longer, a friend helped me realize something even more profound: that while my dad was living, he knew I loved him and I knew how much he loved me. In the end, I can’t ask for more than that.
Rest in peace, dad. Your spirit and grace will be with me always.
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I am so sorry to hear of your dad. I am praying for your strength as you go through the grieving process. To remember the good times always help. I am just beginning my raw/vegan lifestyle. Your article has definitely made me think that I need to get my life together in the way I eat.
Tracye my prayers are with you & family. Thank you for posting!!!! Sharing with family and friends.
Dear Tracye, My sincere condolences in the loss of your father. I feel and understand your love and your pain. Faith in God and the love of family and friends really helps you get through. Time helps heal some of the wounds you have no control over.
My father died of a stroke 20 years ago. He was 67. Last year, I lost my Mom at age 80. She had a heart attack at 3am and was gone less than 12 hrs later. All of her arteries were clogged. It was an extreme shock to me because I didn’t know she had a bad heart! When I think back, my Grandparents on both sides had high blood pressure and high cholesterol. We just don’t always pay enough attention. I’m a two year vegan, partly because my chances of heart attack and stroke are so high.
Tracye, this is why what you do is so important! I know the pain of losing a parent is overwhelming. Your Dad and my parents were wonderful people. They loved and cared about their families. However, over time, their high fat diet proved to be too unhealthy for them. That doesn’t change the love we had and continue to have for them. I just wish they had attempted to eat like your Mom does. And by continuing to teach others the benefits of a plant-based diet, you honor your Mom and your Dad.
When you feel sad, think of things you and your Dad did that made you laugh out loud. Those times bring a smile to your face, even through the tears. Thanks for all you do, for stressing the importance of watching the food that enters our bodies. Even in your sorrow, you help others. Always remember the love you shared, and you’ll always be “Daddy’s Little Girl.”
God bless you!
My prayers are with your dad’s spirit, you, and your family.
My condolences to you, Marya & your family.
I am deeply touched by the emails, calls, and cards many of you sent offering your condolences to me and my family. I am grateful for your words and prayers during this sad time. Thank you.